Do you feel like you don't understand women? Or maybe that they don't understand you?

By Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert

Dear hotter than hot Readers,

So I don't sleep with my clients. Totally don't. Yet man, you turn me on.

When you stop making excuses, when you courageously see your gifts, when you own your magnificence, when you say "No" to self abuse, when you stop thinking love is a sacrifice and no longer give up your life for the approval of a woman...

HOT.

So very hot to me.

It's like I could fuck you right there, I mean THIS is what turns us women on! A man claiming his power no matter what the fuck anyone says!! True authentic YOU!

What brings me great joy is to be the safe sanctuary of softness, replenishment for you after a long day on the battlefield, making it safe to surrender in the bosom of the Divine Feminine.

What turns me on is to drag your cute ass into the fire to sit and let alchemy work it's magic to birth a phoenix from the flame. To hold space as you get your greatness and take action to have what you choose to create in your life. Yum.

What takes me over the edge (where I gladly go) is being your muse, loving you unconditionally, celebrating your magnificence, tempting your deepest core into the light, daring you to claim Life, Her and the Unknown, the Mystery.



I have not been drinking.

Ok, one glass of red wine, half of which spilled on the couch when my cat landed in my lap. Yes, I was typing with one hand, drinking with the other. Yet note to self: 409 cleaner works magic on red wine if scrubbed in under 30 seconds.

I am coming out of hiding. A part of me whom I have never revealed is about to be revealed in 2013. I am going to support you in a fuller dimension than I have ever given myself permission to provide. I have tons of delicious ideas that may cause quite a stir, yet finally it doesn't matter anymore. It hurts more to hide than to risk rejection.

I LOVE this space, the same space when I hopped on Uncle Phil's semi for Hollywood from my small Canadian hometown. And just like then, I doubt the path will look anything like I planned it to. It was 1000x better.

Like when I had a makeover by my friend and colleague Stephen Dimmick and he chopped my hair off and gave me alien sexy eyes!



So where, delicious hot hunky man, are you hiding?

Where are you playing it safe so as to not risk rejection?

Yes, that place.

Women see it like it's tattooed on your forehead.

At least conscious women do, and you want one who's conscious, so she sees it.

What if instead you embraced it?

Like owned it, as part of the fabulous tapestry of you?

Then what would be possible? No more energy drained defending, or justifying, or hiding.

Can you get a sense of the freedom?

So hot.

HOT.

Dare ya.

Adore ya.

Allana xoxo

P.S. What one thing am I not providing, that if I provided, would you eagerly receive, because it would solve the problem that keeps you up at night?

Yes, tell me. I can take it.

And something in me tells me, I'm ready to provide it.

Cuz I adore you that much.

And cuz the world is waiting for you.

And so is She.

Yours,

Allana.

Inside knowledge of what makes a man compelling to a woman... Case Stdies!!!

 By Allana Pratt

Dear hotter than hot Readers,

The pumpkins are carved, snacking on black bean brownies (my girlfriend hides these healthy things in the kids snacks- great excuse for me to have more than one!) and now I'm smelling the homemade pizza in the oven... soon to dress up as a Bayou Witch for Halloween!

There were 4 male speakers at the events I spoke at the last few days in Kelowna... great on so many levels to share with you...

Derrick has to be over 6'8"... his book, The 400 pound Stripper shares the inner journey that supported his journey to lose weight and gain a gentle giant's confidence few men possess. As he took pen to paper journaling, he released all the pain inside and the weight fell off. Never again will life be the same as a writer. Derrick sensed my sensual kinesthetic ways. He sat me down to write with a 1.4 pen, yet the 1.6 felt like butter... then he told me he writes standing up using a portable music stand, he even stands at the ocean's edge sometimes... and so I have agreed to use my great uncles' music stand from Edinburgh and write the masterpiece still hidden inside.

My Dear Lover Curriculum puts my 15 years of coaching experience to work for you, along with all the coaching I have received from others:

Richard is amazing. PhD in Psychology, Portuguese, and an amazing storyteller. Tangible humility, he creates this vortex when he speaks that brings the audience to their core with grace, yet off stage, we were talking about how he's ready for a woman. When he gets near a beautiful woman, he gets in his brilliant head hoping they're the one, concerned he's too short, and questions if the grass is greener with another woman. He speaks with his head slightly to right, showing his handsome left cheek... and I asked him to look me straight on. It was like a 'shazaam.' He breathed through someone and became totally present, way more attractive, grounded, vulnerable, sexier... like a survival strategy of deflection was imprisoned in this posture... he shifted his body and HE came home to Him.

Clint I met last summer in Calgary when I first met Fred, the host. Clint used to be a model, then a successful money manager, yet wasn't quite over a bad marriage, and was in a mildly abusive relationship last summer when I met him. I was touched that he had actually been reading my newsletters and took my advice to sit in the fire, be single and not even date until he got clear with what he really wanted, and clear about his worth. He got bought out of his company, traded his money from home, did his inner work and decided a month ago that he was ready for Her. He dated a few women, yet was honest and told them on a first date if there wasn't a major connection, he didn't want to waste their time. He was solid. Clear. A vortex. Within two weeks he attracted the woman he will marry. There were tears in his eyes as he shared about her. It is so beautiful to see the results of his inner work manifesting her with ease.

Dear Lover can bring lasting change in just 6 weeks. Couple that with my special 2 pack coaching upgrade, and you have a powerful combination:

Scott is an ex pro hockey player, an RCMP (Royal Canadian Mounted Police), a dad of two, and he moved his house- not the contents... THE HOUSE, on a barge over to Vancouver Island! Like it went down the street and was plunked into the lot! Amazing! He wrote his first book: The Continuous Moment of You. YUM!!! He totally gets that it's all about your intimate relationship with yourself. And the more we come home to us, the more we demand to have that intimacy in our personal, parenting, and professional relationships. Can't wait to see where this journey takes him.

Lastly, I did a drawing for my men's Dear Lover DVD Curriculum and a local man won it. He had tears in his eyes when he came up to receive his gift. 27 years of settling with intimacy in his relationship. He owns where he's responsible. He seems clear on what's not working and what he demands to have in his marriage. I'm heading over to do a powerful intensive 2 hour session with him and his wife who have lived in constant external bickering and internal quiet desperation for almost 3 decades. I am honored to hold space for them and celebrate their willingness to sit in the fire with me today. I am honored to open doors to release blame and judgment, to invite them into what's possible. I'm amazed how long they have waited in life to seize the day and create the life they choose... and yet I can see several instances where I made excuses, was in denial, got super busy so as not to look at something and take action to create a new reality.

Ahhh... so I met some damn great men here in the Great White North... and I had my own breakthrough and expansion in my world... I CAN talk to a corporate audience! I had it in my head that my topic of intimacy, my occasional swearing, my hot red dress, my message wasn't a fit. I was wrong. Many approached me in tears afterwards. Many said they see how they have lost touch with their core truth. Many said they appreciated 'permission' to take care of themselves, to be kind to themselves, to speak up and share their truth, to not be stopped if people didn't like them, to be ignited by their inner joy and creativity... that a solid personal relationship with self and beloved truly fuels their business. I was even surprised that some cutting edge start-ups preferred the way I spoke and asked if I would do a keynote for their charity event! No fucking way! WAY COOL!

No more hiding. Show up in my tender, caring, fiercely loving arms and let's roll up our sleeves and do the work. What is truly magnificently possible, amazing man? Let's find out.

Massive delicious love,

Allana 

I am unwilling to give my power away again to another...

From: Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert 

Dear glorious Readers, 

Loved your feedback about the poem I wrote for my friend for her situation!

I got everything from...

Right on, Allana.

God, what seems to be so lacking in today's world is integrity. Just to be clear, I mean integrity as functional wholeness, being of-a-piece, and a work-in-progress in that direction -- not honesty, which is a different attribute. It takes integrity to be honest because sometimes honesty bears the threat of being torn apart for it, of heavy consequences, and only a person with adequate integrity feels up to the possible consequences of honesty. 

Your poem communicates the stakes and the requirements of a relationship of integrity. 

Thanks, Lawrence to Allana, I have never written to you before but I felt the need this time... 

The beginning of this is really good. Guys need to own their own shit, be able to take the heat for mistakes and stay humble. As a guy I hate to discover I hurt or disappointed or was less than I needed to be for anyone I care about let alone a woman who I am in love with. It's awful. This guy may have done something truly despicable. If so say it. Give it a name. Put it out there. 

Where the wheels come off the cart, at least for me, is when this turns more into vitriolic rage and venting. She says she is done and not being judgmental but statements like the following are not only judgmental but really damaging.... JP 

Thank you all!

Here are...

The results in her life of me having written her a poem in her voice to give to him..
MY Voice, MY Story, about what's happened to me.

This has been a great exercise for me, nothing like stirring the pot to awaken us all! I have never written something for someone before, never tried to speak in their voice, from their point of view regardless of what I wanted to say... and it was very effective for them, created the result I intended... yet I see that:

I provided little context of what happened and basically dumped this on you.
I sent it because she loved it, it made him cry, they connected so I jumped to the conclusion it would help you too. 

I was being HER, in her anger, her way of talking... (which is wild I can really get into someone else's head & know what's needed to create a result for another) yet I see it was not empowering for some of you, it was triggering and emasculating to others of you, for which I apologize. My intention is to always uplift you, heal all emasculation and so please forgive my lack of consciousness.

Yet I am also grateful & here's why!

I'm grateful that they, (her still being angry, him still having been hiding) came together. Being heard helped her release her frustration, the safer place she provided allowed him to show up and speak his truth. He had hidden an affair for a year. Even more than the infidelity, she's looking at why her best friend lied to her, where was she responsible for this. This is giving him space to show up, take responsibility as well for his infidelity and decide to what he's committed... They're in the world of possibility now... 

I'm grateful that this blossomed into a conversation and deepened my awareness and responsibility to sit with things before I send them, and not judge myself when I make choices that disempower.

And I'm grateful that it's helped me see where I HAVE BEEN HIDING, pretending, holding back from you. I love you all so much, I choose to come out of the closet and share this with you.

And now I give you my experience, nothing to do with my friend, written by me... as a vulnerable woman, responding as consciously as I can, accepting that I don't have all the answers. I'm not perfect 24/7... and I choose to be real, raw, inviting and hopefully inspirational, sharing my process with you, my beloved community.
Connect, engage and share more feedback please... I value what is true for you.

Aware

by Allana Pratt

Shock.

Expectations smashed into pieces.

Kindnesses of humanity violated.

Kicked in the gut, this is so horrid it's surreal.

Can't breathe, I'm in the underworld, I inhale fire.

Vilification dissolving my heart like acid on flesh.

Trust has been gone for years, yet you're taking me to court to take our son away from me?

Are you mad?

I know we don't get along, yet all this time your excuses, lies, denials, even fake kindnesses were all a conscious manipulation behind my back?

Do beings like you really exist? I'm hooked in judgment.

Part of me is terrified beyond words to lose my son, part of me wants to annihilate you. Then my fierceness awakens like a blade of grass through cement... I CAN awaken. I CHOOSE to awaken through this pain.

I can see I've been avoiding my awareness of who you truly are.

If I received my awareness of who you are, I would have to face the fact and feelings that I married you, made love to you, had a child with you, opened my body, soul and world to you, supported you, believed in you, even after the divorce did all my forgiveness work to be grateful for you... always focusing on the good, and now this?

Mother bear is rearing her head, willing and able to kill for her cub, and at choice.

This is unacceptable.

And me hiding is unacceptable.

Me unwilling to process these sensations so as to be blinded to this attack is unacceptable.

Show it all to me.

I claim my power back to see the unseeable. I choose to dissolve judgment and be with it all.

I chose to marry then divorce someone who is attempting to take me down.

I chose to open my sacred garden of body bliss to someone who doesn't value me.

I chose to grant custody every other week to someone who acts toward me with venom.

Our son swims in this energy at your home.

I want to vomit.

What's right about this?

It's time to release my kumbaya polyanna fantasy that all people are good. That's a judgment, not awareness!

This is fucking with my mind, for part of my courage to surrender into Oneness is to believe I'm surrendering into good juju.

OK, let's go beyond mind.

Oneness includes everything and excludes nothing. I can hear Gary
Douglas's voice in my head.

This too?

Gary, this too!!??

ALL of life comes to me with ease, joy and glory? This too???

So I chose to deny what I knew. And it bit me in the ass.

I did that. Hiding doesn't work.

Thank you for this wake up call... I'm awake... 30 days later I was in court flanked by one of the best lawyers in LA and her mentor, a Family Law Judge. The judge on the stand... it was her FIRST f'ing day on the job. You've got to be kidding me.

For the first 10 minutes being cross examined I barely breathed, was still hiding...and then I remembered who I am.

I am at choice.

I am defending nothing.

And I choose to BE kindness AND the potent capacity to shift, create and generate ANYTHING out of NOTHING...

I was huge, like a tree, honest, mother bear, strength in vulnerability.

I began taking their accusatory insane questions and calmly yet passionately telling the truth then taking the lead by requesting the next question. I was in control of this hearing. They were in MY courtroom and I was walking out the winner. No more hiding, no making wrong. Just the totality of ME.

Fierce Love Truth and Potency in Action.

"Strike that from the record! I object!" his lawyer retorted and...

I

Just

Kept

Talking

As

Big

As

The

Universe.

The judge encouraged me to finish.

My lawyer didn't even need to respond. She said the case is clear your honor, we respect the court's time.

I won on all accounts.

(Except getting a month each for the summer. I choose to provide a global citizen awareness of the world to my boy. It'll happen in time.)

Anything is possible.

Anything is possible when I'm willing to take responsibility for where
I'm the cause of my suffering, where I'm willing to see the truth of who he is and know I choose differently for me, where I am able to really hear what's true for me and make the most potent juicy choice for living possible.

I could have emasculated him.

I could have hidden.

I could have played the victim card.

I could have let fear win.

I am now authentically grateful for the wake up call.

I choose for him to dissolve out of my life with ease right away.

I choose to thrive for me, for my son, for joy.

I choose to inspire all men and women to KNOW what they know and make choices for a delicious spectacular life.

I choose to hold myself in kindness and caring for choosing to hide as long as I did, releasing judgment of him, of me, of life.

I choose to celebrate myself for being willing to have it all, create generate and receive it ALL... everything. EVERYTHING. One moment at a time.

And I am unwilling to give my power away again to another.

And if I do, as soon as I'm aware, claim it back again until it's the very fiber of my being.

I choose ME.

Wow.

It's taken me 42 years (and probably 42 million lifetimes) to choose me.

I'm at the helm.

I bask in the pure awareness of my greatness, my sweetness, my limitlessness.

I choose to take one wild deep magnificent leap into ME... this experience has been the springboard from which I soar into NOW.

Thank you.

Thank you.

How does this get even more delicious?

Deliciously yours,

Allana Pratt 

A close friend wanted to say to her man what she really felt... Violated!

By- Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert

Dear great gift to the planet Readers,

A close friend wanted to say to her man what she really felt... yet every time they talked about it, they got into a fight.

She thought if he could read a poem, hear a guided mediation... from a third party... it might go in. She asked for my help. Having supported her through this, I knew her heart, I know my heart, I know all women's hearts...and I know your hearts....

So I wrote her this...

With deep love,

Allana

Violated

Anonymous

Pummeled.

Trust violated.

Kicked in the gut, life yanked out of me.

Can't breathe, I'm in the underworld, I inhale fire.

Lies dissolving my heart like acid on flesh.

Trust is gone, I've been dropped... falling... falling...

YOU, my hero, have violated our sacred bond of trust... I feel discarded, like garbage, into the realm of the valueless, has-beens, used, useless....

My spirit dulled from color to black and white, my future from a bright pathway of sunshine and possibilities... to a horrid massive creaking metal door slamming shut my dreams with you.

I trusted you to be a good man, honest and forthright.

I trusted you that even if you were scared, uncomfortable or uncertain, you'd sit in the fire, handle your shit, come to me.

I trusted you to speak up, ask for what you wanted, co-create a life that worked for us.

I fucking bragged about you! How humiliating...

Livid, disgusted, horrified... and now disheartened that you are not as strong as I thought you were, not as bold, courageous, kind or caring as I thought you were... like finding out OZ from behind the curtain, or seeing a noble fireman rescue a cat from a tree, only to see him kick a dog to the curb as he leaves...

You were my whole life, we were a team.

You buoyed me up, the banks of my river, the pole to my flag, the arms around me so I would never fall, the belief that come what may, you'd be there... and you've lied, broken trust and even cheated... you have let me down, my heart, my soul. How could you?

How can you pretend to be a man, knowing you are weak, cowardly, secretive, knifing, dishonoring and powerless... acting like a boy impotent against your own emotions, with no integrity, no solidity behind your word, no nobility flowing through your veins...

How could I be so stupid to live in hope and fantasy and not see the reality of you? Perhaps I loved your potential, who you could be, but who you aren't.

What's miraculous is that through all this pain, I've cried and fumed, yet deepened my Self Love, forgiven myself where I was in denial and strengthened my trust in my feminine intuition. Whether you violated our trust or not, I know am a phenomenal woman.

I love you so much. Yet until you show up as a man, honor your own word to yourself, strengthen your capacity to live boldly, courageously, honestly and truthfully...develop the capacity to stand in the center of the storm and not shrink back, unwaveringly commit to honoring your word to me above all else without fail...

...can I ever trust you again... I have forgiven, yet I have not forgotten. Now with eyes open and instinct alert, I sense it's not safe to surrender again.

You haven't stepped up.

Breaking trust is unacceptable.

Saying sorry isn't enough.

Making it better through your own development as a man is the only possibility.

Unless you literally become a man of impeccable presence and undeniable trust, will you ever have the capacity to claim, adore, cherish and receive the gift of me as your woman.

Anything is possible.

I release all judgment, let the past go.

I bask in the pure awareness of what I'm worth.

I welcome the growth required for you to have me back.

The choice is yours.

Anonymous

p.s. what did you think? What did it stir in you? Would love to hear your thoughts. Great love,

Allana
Get her to Say Yes:

Pleasure can come in so many ways. It can be sensual, sexual, or silly and saucy!

The space between Destruction & Creation...

By Allana Pratt

Dear friggen' fabulous Readers,

I don't know about your life... but mine is quite the unexpected ride these days.

It seems the clearer I get with who I am and what I choose the more things fall apart.

Logically that makes sense, whatever's in the way of what I choose would need to leave, shift, fall apart or step aside...

Yet man oh man... it can be uncomfortable as things exit, blow up, take 7 focused attempts to achieve what normally takes one casual action to get done... I notice myself wondering if I'm going bonkers.

And I am amazed at who calls at times when I'm going bonkers... and the gifts they provide with elegant ease... it makes me feel like the Universe really is benign, kind, and on my side.

Yet it arrives in odd packages. For instance my cat got bit by some varmint and needed to have shots and meds and stay inside all weekend. So we hung out in my bed for close to 48 hours. She went from growling, hissing and bitchy, to calm, affectionate and snuggly.

I wasn't that far off... I wrote in my journal, read, prayed, meditated, napped, self pleasured... got feisty and made some big demands of Me and the Universe... was surrendered when people would call and offer their precious nuggets.

As the year draws to a close, and the tension from the holidays starts to build, how great would it be to have weekly pleasure practices to help you deal with that stress, and carry you into next year? 

Check out my Pleasure Practices now:

If you're going through a time of transformation, it can be tremendously exciting, and yet also dark and squishy in the cocoon. Uncertain. Uncomfy... loved a video Dr. Dain made from Sweden about "Falling Apart" and how we can just BE with the discomfort and it changes... yes... like I say 'sitting in the fire' with what is... and how allowing it all to be transforms things... (DrDainHeer.com)

In fact I'm very grateful for a breakthrough I had because of creating a DVD for you with Dain a few weekends ago... It's about Sexuality, Intimacy and Your Body... it's available to you in November in time for the Holidays. After recording over 3 hours of content and being on set with Dain the whole day, swimming in his magnificent energy and consciousness... it was clear this DVD wasn't just for you... I was invited to come home to me, claim me, love me, honor me, be intimate with me in a way I simply hadn't seen possible before. And I said Yes.

I am confident with how I hold space and inspire the magnificence of you, my cherished clients and I am also humbled and vulnerable enough to know when I'm the student and my teacher has arrived. This DVD is potent, there is clearing all the way through it. I walked away (OK slithered all sultry and all sexy xoxoox) a different woman... the real me... and some of you have commented in private sessions I'm more calm, in videos that I'm more grounded... thank you.

And yet simultaneously in my life, all that I'd created having unknown 'layers' in front of my deepest truth... these structures, relationships and creations are falling away... yet finally some new things are arriving and I am so much more connected to what really matters, what really brings me joy... that it helps cradle me in the space between destruction and creation.

Pleasure can come in so many ways. It can be sensual, sexual, or silly and saucy! 

I have 52 ideas to help you put pleasure into your life:

So my love, I cradle you where you are too, knowing what I know of your magnificence... tonight imagine it's me whispering in your ear as you look at your glorious face after you brush your teeth... have a listen for me... 'you are sooo phenomenal, you are so hot and fabulous, you are such a gift never before to walk this planet... thank you for You.'

I'm off to Nova Scotia with Gabe this week...a dream come true to travel with my son... I play and inspire and awaken my clients, he plays and learns and grows with cows, corn and farmers... we contribute our gifts... savoring all we are blessed to receive... yum yum yum...what else is possible?

Lusciously delicious snuggles,

Allana

P.S. I promise I will have more information about my upcoming DVD with Dr. Dain soon, but meanwhile check out my pleasure practices and sign up for more information:

P.P.S. I love you, and yearn for you to have more pleasure in your life.

Pleasure Practices- Pleasure almost anywhere: shooting, relaxing by the fire, or just at home...

By Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert

Dear phenomenal yummy You,

How cool is it to meet people in Nova Scotia who 'know' me because my emails address them as Luscious & Fabulous & Hot!?

This trip has been so yummy. I was honestly still tipsy this morning when I woke... my host (and fellow coach) Angela Van De Riet of www.engagedliving.com (whose site got hacked so if you see two women making out... the issue is being fixed!).

...any of the men still reading?

OK... back to the program...

So Angela, myself and some ladies in the community stayed up late last night drinking champagne and talking naughty in celebration of the delicious awakening and transformation in the lives of the women and young girl's we touched.

My son Gabe LOVED this trip!! On the way over... he was flirting with the flight attendants and honored them by collecting garbage for them on the flight! He was so excited he was dancing to his iPod shuffle in the back galley.

Once on the farm, you'd think he was born there. The smell didn't bother him. He was a total natural with animals and climbing all over the hay in the barn. He was RIGHT in the pen with TONS of cows, in his rubber boots, guiding them into the milking station... they are HUGE animals and yet he had no fear! He loved the horses (Mr. Wilson came right over to nuzzle me when I went for a walk in the stunning acres over rolling hills...yum). Gabe also loved the dogs and one farm cat Kitan in particular.

He even shot a bibi gun.

So did I!

Then a bigger gun, then a Bigger one! Nearly knocked me off my feet. Way up in the hills. I hit a pumpkin. LOVED it. I'm officially a red neck.


I had so much fun experiencing and exploring pleasure on this trip!

To get a daily dose of pleasure, check out my Pleasure Practices CD's: 

Justice was my 17-year-old mentor who taught me the rules of respect for the guns. He told me he has no idea how I can live in a city. He prefers nature and animals to people. Yet he's got a huge heart and I loved my lesson and appreciated his patience!

It was such a metaphor for life, when I was timid and not grounded. I missed the pumpkin. Frustration or self-judgment made it worse. When I pulled the trigger too fast 'trying' to hit the pumpkin, I missed. Yet when I leaned up against the truck, gun to my cheek, exhaled deep into my body and into the earth, BECAME the trigger AND the bullet and pulled the trigger softly like I WAS the gun... WAS the bullet... boom. Wow. I feel so enlivened. It was like a meditation. Cleared my mind, got me present, in my body, clear what I'm generating and creating in my life. Hot.

You can find pleasure almost anywhere: shooting, relaxing by the fire, or just at home:

It was also hot straddling Abby... and sweet, transformational and humbling.

This was at the Little Black Dress Night on Friday. (Where I wore my SingleDress.com little lace number!) I don't remember how it unfolded, yet Abby walked in hating her body, her glorious voluptuous would-kill-for-her-huge-breasts body... yet she didn't see it that way.

I asked her to come to the front of the room, to speak to me, right in the eyes, the way she speaks to her body, in front of 30 women... (talk about brave, eh?) When she did, I asked her if she'd be willing to stop abusing herself like that. She agreed.

I don't know why I do this, I'm just drawn to hold women in front of me, looking out to the group of sisters. I give them a huge hug, hold on tight and don't let go. I even wrap my legs around them... we women are so practiced holding it together, being in control, making it happen, twisted inside like a pretzel, trying to stay three steps ahead to be safe, look good. When a woman can exhale into me... like I'm mother earth or a big sister or a serene goddess... it's really wild.

Pleasure Practices can reduce stress and help you keep it down, by regularly introducing joy into your life:

We did several layers of clearing that I've learned to add to this ritual from Access Consciousness... and the whole room had the opportunity to release their self hatred of their bodies too. It was magnificent. I held her and loved her and honored her and then asked the room to acknowledge what THEY saw in her... they saw her courage and brilliance and brains... yet no one would comment on her beauty... and yet as far as I'm concerned...she is HOT!!! So voluptuous! I mean I was holding her and yes, I prefer men... yet wow, if I was a man, holding her would be hot! Yet it was tough for the women in the room to acknowledge her beauty... some were still stuck in judgment... told by society that you can never be too thin.

This older women commented how decades ago, she'd been a mom at a pool with her kids in the summer, unwilling to get in as it would mess her hair...and she remembered a 400 pound woman with her three kids going down the water slide over and over, screaming with delight, her kids loving her attention... her kids feeling left out... what courage to admit this at the event... to let it go, to destroy and uncreate the judgment of the larger woman, the judgment of herself for judging, and to set herself free...after all those years...

This Little Black Dress night was in a conference room at the Hilton and during this ritual, a woman walked by the open door as I was straddling Abby... poked her head in... saw my short skirt hiked up and stilettos wrapped around Abby, arms wrapped around her glorious body, Abby crying and laughing, starting to own her fabulous boobs and bodacious body... and this women had to come back for a SECOND look! Jaw dropping gawk. We all howled.

Abby got it. She got her diva sexy hot nature. And two nights later at the Mother Daughter Speech (where this 8 year old girl almost co-led the speech with me who TOTALLY knows how to receive!!!) Abby told the room she feels WICKED. That she was up at 6am for Pilates with joy. That she flirts with herself in the mirror. AND she's going to do my Radiance DVD/CD curriculum with her coworker who said, "I Want What She Has!"

YUM!!!!!

Thank you Angela for the honor to speak to your community, for the private sessions I did with those women and couples ready to end the abuse and begin to LIVE Lusciously, Intimately, and Connected. And for the blessing being on the farm was to my son. And for your willingness to ask how Does It Get Even Better for next year with sponsors? For supporting me, caring for me with meals, driving, laundry and your family & friends taking care of Gabe so I could, from fullness, serve and shine and soar doing what I love to do, inspire, adore and invite women into their magnificence.

And for the possibility of doing an event for those hot farmer men next year too... tee hee!

From a more badass, earth lovin', short lacey dress, shit covered boots, gun slinging, drinking homemade wine, humbled in gratitude for how can it get even better, Allana...who sumptuously is open to receiving an invitation to bless YOUR community next year.

All my gushing love,

Allana xoxoxo

P.S. Sign up for my free 7 Days of Pleasure...

P.P.S. I love you, admire you, and would like to see YOU at a live event someday!

A guy in NYC complained about his relationships getting stale quickly, boring, not fresh...

By Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert

Dear love how you step up and handle it readers,

Scot McKay interviewed me last week for his podcast.

A question came in from a guy in NYC who complained about his relationships getting stale quickly, boring, not fresh.

I challenged him to ask what was stale, boring and not fresh about him?

He had added that it's a pattern for him.

I continued that it's so easy to blame the relationship or the woman for this pattern... yet you know me... the only one in common here is HIM!

I sense a place in him where things are going well... yet he starts to play it safe, pull back, and it SEEMS like it's a boring relationship, but REALLY it's a survival mechanism to protect him from risking rejection, from going deeper, from being more vulnerable, intimate, raw, connected, out of control....

Not CRAZY WACKY out of control, but out of expectations, out of limitations, out of the known and into the wonderously wild world of the unknown.

It's like he has stopped getting to know the depth of HIM, expanding who HE is, he's playing it safe.

Sex when you know exactly what's going to happen next is soooo awful, yes?

Yet sex when you have no idea what's next is exhilarating.

Click here for Scoring a Relationship>>> 


Scot and I talked about this on his show, about how intimate, sensual, hot relationships are more than just copulation. Foreplay is an all day affair.

So I told the caller from NYC about my Scoring a Relationship Program. It's all about inspiring men to dig deeper into THEMSELVES to turn a gift into an experience that builds intimacy, sexual tension and results in a wanton woman aching for YOU... it results in a woman who sooo trusts you and falls into the banks of the river you create in her life, that she doesn't stray...

...she becomes devoted to YOU.

In fact I was feeling generous so I gave this gentleman the program for free... because Scoring a Relationship could be the very catalyst to wake him up and make him sit in the fire of his own hesitancy, risk rejection yet open the door to the exciting, bold, fresh relationship he craves... if HE will show up then HE will create it!

If you haven't got this program yet, get it. Not only do you receive the 10 step by step proven ideas, you see a prior boyfriend of mine in action, in a photo shoot, performing these very ideas in a series of hot pictures with me...

AND there are 3 additional bonus interviews of how men like Ricki Williams, former football all star, score in their relationships. And it's in mp3 form so you can listen right before you're on your date to pump you up!

I soooo believe in you, you glorious man!

Yet you have to step up or I can't help!

Get this for you (and for her) now, and just like the caller from NYC, keep me posted on your wins for I love to celebrate the results I get with amazing men like yourself.

Truly it turns me on when a man is courageous enough to stop complaining and take bold action to create what he wants. Yum.

Here is the link to my simple, hot and effective Scoring a Relationship Program>>>


Deliciously yours, Allana

Show up as the man who will get her to say Yes...

By Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert

Dear Remarkable Men,

So I haven't received permission yet to show you the HOT PHOTO so you'll have to take my word for it... but just today I learned that a cherished client who we haven't heard from in YES Membership for the past 8 weeks... has been a little busy...

OK SHE'S SO HOT!!!

Apparently he's been busy with her!

He even called her his 'girlfriend!"

This is after doing his deep work with me, being a part of the YES Membership, peeling away layers of limiting beliefs... healing the past and letting it go with his parents... getting out there and moving through disappointment when she wasn't the One... yet he didn't give up.

HE DIDN'T GIVE UP.

He did his work to go from insecure to humbly yet confidently noble, aware of his worth, unwilling to settle... nor willing to take women's sometimes crazy behaviors personally.

I AM SO FRIGGEN' HAPPY FOR HIM!

I mean they look like a couple out of some celeb magazine... AND he looks so calm, so at peace with him, with her, with life and with the moment. Grounded. Sexy as hell. He earned this... he worked for it... he is my hero!!!!!!!!!!

Get Her to Say Yes!

So perhaps he'll give me permission to post it on my YES FB page... or maybe I'll blog more about him and the results of showing up in the Membership, showing up in the brotherhood, showing up in his life... and ultimately not giving up before he could show up for HER.

She's a lucky woman.

Men that join my Membership and do the work- they grow, get results and get her to say Yes.

I salute you magnificent men who never give up 5 minutes before the miracle.

Often it's the hardest RIGHT before change occurs... this is kind of gross... but kind of like a zit... the biggest pressure is right before it pops! (How is it with male orgasm?) For women... while there are many kinds of orgasms (how does it get better than that?) it's a building of pressure right before the release...

So if you're in a challenging place right now... it's the PERFECT time to join the community so my loving mentorship, insights and feminine celebration of YOU... can tip you into the next dimension where you break free from your self created prison... and show up as the man who will get her to say Yes.

Adoring you right where you are...

Deliciously yours,

Allana

P.S. Can't wait to hear your voice and support you breaking free of what's limiting your life, being the potent feminine catalyst to ignite your relationships to soar.... xoxoxo

Get Her to Say Yes 101: What's possible when a fabulous intimate relationship fuels your very living?

By Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert

Dear oh so lusted after You,

So there I am, an unusually humid LA afternoon recording my monthly guided meditation for you, remembering when I recorded the audio version for my first ever product for you men...

Eben Pagen had just interviewed me for Double your Dating... my FIRST interview for men. We started at the top. I had NO idea what to say! Didn't know that hidden inside me was a perspective, a point of view, a way of viewing men that would change their reality with women.

So there I was, having worked with women for over 10 years, flabbergasted with all the emails from men who grabbed my Free Report from my interview... questions poured in. Men felt an immediate bond of trust with me... many men said the interview moved them to tears... one man said he had listened to it 12 mornings in a row straight as his mantra and he had a new found confidence he'd never experienced before, like a veil was removed... he was showing up in life... and women were noticing.

Get Her to Say Yes 101:

So I wrote down all I knew for you men.... shared my personal experiences of what turns me on and allows me to surrender all the way... and answered the questions you had emailed me....

Then I put on a hot outfit, my sexy French bustier underneath and a classy Armani jacket on top, turned on the lights and camera and went LIVE for YOU in my first men's product!

Then I remembered how all of you had HEARD me and even commented on my velvety voice that soothed your parched soul... so I recorded the whole thing on audio...

Yet something was missing...

How could I give you the experience so many of you have had when we have private intimate healing sessions in person, on Skype or on the phone?

Would a powerful guided meditation work to heal the culprit of all your nice guy, hesitancy and doubt?

I have to be totally honest.

I wasn't sure if it would work.

I mean when I was talking to a man LIVE, getting feedback, asking questions, guiding him at a pace that works for him... then I got perfect 10/10 results... yet I was considering doing a guided meditation... talking to the wall... into a microphone...

Get Her to Say Yes 101:

So I decided to create a new reality...

I imagined YOU were right there.

I felt you. Sensed you. Listened to you. Tapped into your world. Truly connected intimately with you... then I threw away my script, closed my eyes... and began to speak...

To you...

By the end... I was moved to tears... total body shivers... SOMETHING happened that had never happened to me before.

I KNEW you heard me. I KNEW I changed a life. I KNEW you understood your magnificence. And I KNEW you would get your woman to say "Yes."

Then I packaged up the two videos, audio and bonus Guided Meditation and called it YES 101.

The feedback proved me right. You felt my love, your heart healed, your dating transformed, you got your woman to say "YES"...

And not just "YES" to sex... any well scripted line can get a low self esteem woman into bed...

You were getting high quality women to open their hearts, their minds, their bodies, their soul's to YOU... and to flood you with honor, devotion, praise and their delicious bodies reiterated all of that in motion...

And your nice guy dissolved, and your hesitancy became a thing of the past, and you became alive with potency for your purpose, your legacy, and what's possible when a fabulous intimate relationship fuels your very living.

If you've enjoyed YES 101- thank you for investing, and thank you on behalf of the woman you now drive wild.

If you haven't, she's waiting...

Get Her to Say Yes 101:

Deliciously yours,

Allana

Scoring a Relationship- Take her from interested to connected to claimed...

By Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert 

Hey, make my heart sing...

Yes! I know that the commitment that most of you have is scoring that perfect woman!

Yet the whole act of SCORING is so much more. Once you're the real, core, authentic YOU, you Score at Life. 

Think about it, WHO are you being when you SCORE?

• Confident?
• Clear?
• Knowing of your worth?
• A swagger that you know this or that better is coming?
• Potent YOU found in the present moment?
• Faith that come what may, you can handle it?

That beingness permeates your WHOLE life, as seen here with Frank.
As soon as he did his work, found his core and lived from there, everything began to fall into place.

Including scoring a great woman. Get this...
Hey Allana,

I'm moving to my dream house!!! 25 acres. A wall of windows on the 3rd floor, overlooking the land and a pond full of fish!

It's peaceful, it's serene, it looks shockingly similar to what I've been picturing in my imagination for months! I saw it, I got it, I'm moving in Friday!!!

Too easy!

I'm continuing to learn about Modern Shamanism.

I just had dinner with my ex-wife last night. We've cleaned up our past and are moving forward as some amazing friends.

My really amazing friend/lover/awesome human being/business partner, V. is on FIRE! Laughing deep. Crying because she feels real hope. You are magic. I loved being with her like that.

(Allana: V. is his friend to whom he gifted sessions with me).

AND I've decided she's the One. (Allana: OMG- now he's claimed her as his woman!)

I'm continuing to expand and grow. Getting much more in touch with how my body feels. It's funny how when you first coached me on "light" and "heavy" I thought it was a bit woo woo. Now I use it all the time, never fails.

You are an amazing woman, Allana. If a word could describe what you've done for me and meant to me this last year it would sound something like...
"RRRRRRRRRRRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGHH....
mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm....."

I share Frank's story because all of you have the capacity to shift, and it's a lie to think you have to piecemeal your life together as you grow. It quite often happens in one big BANG because you're catapulted to another dimension where ALL of YOU meet ALL of Life in a new way.

Every delicious journey starts with one step, so here is the least expensive, most visually appealing, effective and clear way I can support your journey.

Scoring a Relationship EBook & Audio Book Combo:

See how simple and predictable gifts can be turned into experiences that really open a women's heart, her mind and her body. 

Enjoy 3 Bonus audios, where I interview men; including former running back Ricky Williams about how he scores [ahem]. And yes, he's an old boyfriend (just cuz a few of you have gotten the book and asked). He's a great man who taught me a lot about being a woman that brings out the best in her man.

Bottom line, action begets action.

Enjoy this potent ePackage and join Frank and hundreds of others who are experiencing their full potential with getting her to say Yes and have Life say Yes right back. 

Scoring a Relationship ePackage:

Deliciously yours,
Allana

P.S. Isn't it magical?

Start your magical journey with one step, read Scoring a Relationship and take her from interested to connected to claimed...

Do you have any idea how seductive you are?

By Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert

Most amazing desirable Readers,

Do you have any idea how seductive you are when you are in your nobility? 

What a turn on you are when you are grounded in your magnificence? 

How you make me weak in the knees when you really get connected and SEE me?

Of course none of that is possible with thoughts spinning in your head, with whining or blaming, or if you are enmeshed in a story. It's impossible if your heart is closed and wounded. For you are simply not AWARE of Life, of your magnificence, and of what's possible... and you have no chance of ever getting a quality woman to say yes.

There are a growing number of quality women out there. Granted, many are so 'quality' that they don't need you to save them. They CHOOSE you because you contribute something to their life they don't have.

What is that?

.....a solid rock to rest upon, the banks of the river to flow through, and a deep presence to surrender into! Your BEINGNESS is your new currency. Yes, be able to take her out to dinner, remember to send some flirtatious texts, be in decent shape and love your life...yet she's not going to say YES to you unless you ARE the MAN who steps up to claim her so she can let go.

Get Her to Say Yes!

What's the weirdest thing ever... a pleasant fulfilling shock to me, is that I have been gifted with the capacity to wake up your nobility, the real you:

Yesterday was amazing. The best session yet!! I felt so wonderful afterward, effervescent, like bubbles rising to the top of a champagne glass. Thanks for sharing your personal stories. You really validated my own relationship choices and cleared any self-judgment away. I feel liberated today.

I even boldly let two women know that I'm interested in going out with them. One, whom I had met at a charity event last weekend, told me she was in a relationship, but was deeply flattered. I wasn't attached to the outcome. I was just proud that I summoned the balls to let her know I was attracted to her and interested. I felt like I had taken a huge step. The second woman I'm waiting to hear back from the email that I sent her on Facebook. I'm in action! B. M.

Aaaah!!!

Thanks for your so kind and powerful words.

You showed me, in a world of struggle, that joy and kindness, were the best and most powerful weapons.

You are an explosive cocktail of joy, light, love, fun, a concentration of energy as powerful as a nuclear bomb. I have been in a period of repeated failures and discouragement, but seeing you awakened my spirit, my genius and my masculinity.

You must continue your work - it is a necessity for the world. F.C.

Some of you get it, take action, work with me, sit in the fire, burn away all that's not you so that you feel confident, on your game, potent with life and you get her to say Yes.

I love to see, feel, and imagine how many lives our coaching interaction touched. It LOOKS like 2 people, you and me... yet in your lifetime, how many people will you really touch? 50,000? More? I smile knowing the quality of every interaction is better because you are the BEST you.

Then I like to see, feel, and imagine you with your beloved. No... not a perverted peeping tom. Ha, just to capture a moment when she lets go in your arms, exhales and relaxes her boundaries, surrenders her body, heart and soul to you... and you claim her to her core... that turns me on and makes me happy to know the world is blessed with your bliss.

Stop the excuses.

Find a program that works for you.

Just do the work, the world is waiting for the totality of YOU... and SHE is breathless when you arrive.

Deliciously yours,

Allana

P.S. Here is my treasure chest.

Choose! Act!

I challenge you to sit in the fire and find out who you really are.

Soar with me, so you can open her world.

Get Her to Say Yes!